Official Stats version:

Wendy Curry: born September 7, 1966, Worcester, Massachusetts.  Grew up in Rockland, Maine; college , UMaine.  Has yet to defend her thesis (last looked at 2 years ago).   She's currently a software engineer at Applied Microsystems.  She's been married since 1985 to Brian.  No kids, no cats.  Today's fish count is 2 (the third died yesterday).  yada, yada...

Wendy's bi evolution:

I had crushes on grrls in high school, but didn't see them as such.  I just knew I wanted to be around certain people.  I was busy dating the "right" guys, while lusting after the wrong ones.

I was in love with my step-cousin/best friend, Leeann.  Hugging her sent shocks through my body.  So, I gave up my virginity to her cousin, Ralph.  It was almost like being with her.

I fell in love with my next best friend, who rescued me from a not so nice guy.  This time, he fell in love back and we moved into together when i was 17, married at 18.

I didn't figured out I was bi (never thought about it) until I was reading a "Letters" magazine (immediately after turning 18).  It had one of those trashy lesbo scenes.  Thats the first time I ever thought about  my attractions to wimmin as anything but friendship.  Suddenly things made sense.

When I got married, I made them wipe out all references to obey and keep me only to him.  I knew that, when the time came, I'd try to figure out where I fell on the Kinsey scale.

I chased one lesbian for 3 years; I panicked a bit the first time we got serious.  I knew she'd be my "first".  I ended up sleeping with her (and my) close friend.  They were in a band together (with my husband).  It was a one time thing, but I felt like somehow my dykedom was authenticated.

There's was no bi community in Bangor, Maine in the mid 80's.  I went to the GLb (note the capitalization) group, Wilde Stein.  They let me be the token bi.  I found bifem-l listserv; it became a second home.  Via the internet, I could talk with people like me.  There were people understanding my feelings, my desires.  We discussed the ideal relationships, the ideal world.

My first girlfriend came from that list.  Life was great.  I wanted her around all the time.  We tried a triad, trying to make a new family.  Things ended when she got more interested in Brian than me.

Later, I fell in love and had a gf that I didn't share.  As amazing as that was, I couldn't imagine giving up men.  Were still friends.

We tried monogamy for two years after that relationship.  Now, I'm cautiously stepping back out.

Favorites:
Ani Difranco, Bi any Other Name, Stone Butch Blues, UNIX, Dogbert, Bar Girls, South Park, Green Day, Rent,.Birkenstocks, Patchouli, Carol Queen, Natlie Merchant, blue, the neck, honeydew, chocolate, Janis, Ben, Jerry, Vegetable Biryani, vampires, tie dye.

You can email me at: madamec@ici.net.

 
  Derien

Concerning my Name: "Information is given on a need to know basis. At this point, you don't need to know." :) It's been my policy to use Derien as my contact name everywhere online. Mainly it began because the person who first introduced me to IRC (back in 1990 or '91) said 'everyone uses a nick [nickname] online, and you shouldn't give your real name out too easily because weirdos might track you down.' Now it's less fear than habit, though, and a desire to remain consistent. 'Derien' is a bad misspelling of my real name, and means "of nothing." It's what French teachers tell you to say for "you're welcome," although a Parisienne friend of mine tells me that the French don't say, "you're welcome."

Birthdate: August 11, 1966, Ellsworth, Maine.

Residence: In Maine, all my life. Both parents' families are rooted here. My mother's family around North Berwick, my father's around Rockland and Orono.

Background: My parents were sort of on the leading edge of hippidom, a little older than the usual. They read lots of sci-fi and were interested in 'old religion' spirituality and philosophy.

Like my parents, I've always been restless, uncomfortable with myself, and shy. I'm beginning to come out of it, with much work. I knew I was bi when I was 12, though I didn't have a word for it until I was 14. I knew I was polyamorous when I was in high school, though I didn't have a word for it until I was 24 or 25. Not having words makes one feel isolated, so having identified myself in these ways I now feel a bit more comfortable. Now I just have to deal with social perceptions of these words.

I received my BA in Sociology at the University of Southern Maine. Everything is sociological, to me. At one time I thought I'd like to go into a career in television, because I thought that was how to best influence the shape of American society to make it more accepting of diversity and difference. Now I'm thinking that my current course of being involved in the internet culture might be even better - and of course I just fell into it. :)

Currently: I live in Portland, Maine, with Eor and two fat old cats, and work as a service desk clerk and video rental coordinator at a grocery store. It's a big store, though not the biggest, and it's busy, though not really the busiest. But there's a peculiar character about this particular store, which leads people to refer to it as "The Pit." In retail they say it's 'location location location.' Our location gives us an interesting variety of people, from the hard-core welfare cases to the newest immigrants to the well-off islanders, and of course the college kids, and the old folks who's families have been here for two hundred years. Even though it's a stupid job, it can be rather demanding.

I hope to go back to school to study accounting, hoping to get a bit away from the P.I.G. (Public In General) for a while, and concentrate more on socializing and trying to network with other bi, queer and poly people.

My particular flavor of polyamory is polyfidelity, because I tend to be very intense in relationships, and not particularly interested in casual relationships. I am reasonably sure that I could not be happy with a relationship with a woman if she was not also involved with and in love with Eor, because I hate having my life and emotions divided.

Interests (in no particular order): Polyamory, reading, writing, drawing, being outdoors (hiking, camping, walking, rock climbing), philosophy/spirituality (though I'm pretty reserved in how I express this in my own life, it's more a sociological interest), genealogy, web page design. Jackie Chan movies, British TV (Ballykissangel, Red Dwarf, Dr. Who, The Prisoner).

You can email me at: derien@rulesthe.net.

 
  Jon

Vitals: Born Jon David Spinner on May 6th, 1967 in Kansas City after grueling 22 hour birthing process; 5'6"; 180lbs.; atheist; left-handed; current pulse rate: 62.

Current Location: Kansas City, Missouri, working as a web programmer and general technical wonk for the University of Missouri -- Kansas City, School of Law. Previously employed by Planned Parenthood of Mid-Missouri and Eastern Kansas. I've also lived in St. Louis, Missouri and Tallinn, Estonia. Spent time in: England, Finland, France, Germany, Latvia, Russia, and Scotland (traveled through Belarus and Poland); planning to visit Cuba this year or next and I'm certainly headed to IBC6 in the Netherlands in 2K.

Sex and Sexuality Stuff: As a child, I had that I'll-show-you-mine-if-you-show-me-yours (and maybe we'll see what happens from there) with other boys my age several times. With one neighbor it lasted from the age of nine to eighteen. Then there were the traditional, furious bouts of heterosexual serial monogamy throughout college. After graduation, while working for Wash. U. - St. Louis, I signed on to BISEXU-L and opened my eyes, now I am a proud fence sitter. Currently I'm in an outstanding relationship with a wonderful woman.

TV shows I'd put off sleep for: Red Dwarf, MST3K, Simpsons, old Columbo reruns, South Park, and Dr. Who (god I'm such a nerd).

Magazines I'm subscribed to: Z, Black Sheets and Dragon (currently considering ATM and, believe it or not, Mad...it's gotten quite hip lately).

Good KC restaurants that my SO and I frequent: Saigon 39 (Vietnamese), The Blue Nile (Ethiopian), The Thai Place (Thai), Sakura (Japanese), Ponaks (Tex-Mex), Pyramid and The Cedar Cafe (Middle Eastern), and Garozzo's (Italian, real Italian, not that Olive Garden crap)... my SO and I have both put on 20lbs. since we've met.

Other Desires and Lusts: Monet, Van Gogh, Dali, Man Ray, Cartier-Bresson, Arbus, and anyone in the original Group f/64; Kurt Vonnegut, Richard Brautigan, Lois McMaster-Bujold, J.R.R.T. and, of course, Mark Twain; John Travolta, Kathleen Turner, Janeane Garafolo, and Patrick Swayze; Stout, most Pinot Noir, some Merlot, and just about any Cab; Akira Kurosawa, Wim Wenders, Ang Lee, Martin Scorsese, Ingmar Bergman and anything by Nick Park studios; Peter, Paul & Mary, Fiona Apple, Laurie Anderson, Kate Bush, and, like every other bi in the 80's, Adam Ant.

You can email me at: spinnerj@umkc.edu.

 
  Erin

Erin's response to our bio request:

'I'll send you a digital photo soon.  My bio can just say: "Erin Reid is a
Webmaster for a number of different organizations.  He is also a choral
conductor and music teacher."  That's enough. :-)'

Mr. Reid, we feel this isn't enough.

Until you give us more we are going to encourage people to believe the following about you:

Erin Reid was found in a basket floating near Three-Mile Island. He loves the color purple. So much so that he frequently dyes his skin dark lavender and prances around naked in the streets. He frequently loses arguments with inanimate objects.

After a bad turn in the stockmarket and a failed love affair. Erin chucked it all and joined the French Foreign Legion. Where, for a number of years, he traveled the world leaving scores broken hearts in his wake. Do not spend too much time with him as his spurned lovers tend to make frequent and messy assassination attempts. Inexplicably, Erin, has survived each time in spite of the fact that there was usually a great loss of life.

Erin's connection to the internet has been hard-wired into his skull. This is part of an experimental program of several clandestine governmental agencies. The entire unit is self-contained and is just under the skin behind is right ear. If you stand close enough to him you can hear it hum and it will probably reset your digital watch. It can also fog photographic film so use a digital camera when necessary. This implant is under the influence of the CIA's orbital mind control lasers which sometimes accounts for his bizarre behavior.

You can email Erin at: webmaster@binetusa.org.